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Warning Signs Your Teen Is Bullying Other Teens

Since we love our children, we are always on the lookout for signs that he or she is being bullied at school. We hate to think that there may be children who try to exclude him or her from activities or ridicule him or her. Sometimes we are so caught up in trying to find out if our teenager is being treated fairly that we forget to check if he or she might actually be the bully. Shockingly, many parents are unaware of their teen’s behavior around others in his or her age bracket. Here are signs that your child is a bully.

School Problems

If you are getting regular phone calls from the principal regarding your child’s behavior at school, it may mean that he or she is a bully. It may range from making others do their homework, verbal abuse of a student or teacher and/or physical abuse as well. While some parents may conclude that it is part of “growing pains,” experts would differ.

Positive Outlook towards Violence

If your teen loves movies and games where people are being hurt or killed, you may have a bully on your hands. Do you see your teen smiling smugly when he or she watches shows where people are maimed? Does your child laugh at situations that show any form of physical violence? If you answer yes to both questions, there is a chance that your child is a bully.

Behavioral Problems

Does your teen treat his or her peers and adults with an equal amount of disdain? If your child is domineering at home and constantly bickers with his or her parents or siblings, this is a warning sign that the child may have behavioral issues.

Hot Tempered

When a child reacts violently to even the tiniest stimuli, parents need to consider that he or she may be a bully. If your child spews verbal abuse or uses physical force to make a point, it should be considered a major issue. Teenage bullies will usually take their behavioral issues home as well. However, there are others who are veritable angels at home. Some teenagers will try to mask this behavior by apologizing profusely right after it.
Once you have confirmed that your child is a bully, you should take him or her to see a therapist. Counseling can help a bully deal with the issues that trigger his or her rage. However, if a child has a consistent history of bullying and a parent is unable to control it, a boarding school has to be considered. It would be best to send your child to a school nearby so that you can check on his or her progress. If you live in L.A., consider asking your child’s school principal to help you find good boarding schools in Los Angeles.

Submitted by Guest Poster Agnes J.

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Judy is a parent educator, family coach, and personal historian who has written more than 20 books, hundreds of articles and speaks internationally on family issues, including care giving. Trained as a ready to learn consultant, she works with Head Start organizations and child care resource centers.

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