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Dangers of Cyberbullying – Online Threats

Friday, September 10th, 2010
The Dangers of Cyberbullying

It has become a part of our mainstream media to read about cyberbullying and the young people who are affected daily.  Many do not tell, but suffer in silence.
Out of a fear of losing access to technology many kids and teens do not inform parents and caregivers, teachers or friends they are experiencing problems with cyberbullies.
Although similar to normal bullying in many ways cyberbullying involves the use of cell phones or other technology as a means to harass others.
Cyberbullies use the internet and text messages to embarrass or intimidate another person.
Messages and posts can range from threats of physical harm to disclosing personal information on their victim. The information cyberbullies put out information intended to defame or embarrass their victims.
Cyberbullying often begins with young boys, but girls are more likely to continue the behavior through young adulthood. Threats, and sexual remarks are often the earmark of the cyberbully. However, sexual remarks are not usually classed as sexual harassment and do not usually involve a sexual predator.
Who Is The CyberBully?

The behavior of the cyberbully is not limited to kids and young adults. There are many instances of adults who commit some form of cyber-harassment against another adult. These adults have a pattern of threatening employment or earnings of another individual.

Many teens and children who are being cyberbullied are afraid to tell. They are fearful they will lose computer or phone privileges if they tell their parents.

They often stalk others through the internet–threatening the safety and reputation of their victim. These cyber stalkers often use search engines and social media to sabotage and harass their victims.
Cyberbullying can be either direct or indirect

Direct bullying involves communication directly between the victim and the bully, while indirect bullying involves others in the process to gang up on the victim.
Cyberbullies can often remain anonymous by using temporary e-mail addresses and social networking accounts to harass or impersonate others.
How To Combat The Threats
  • Change your e-mail address and cell phone number, be choosy who you give your new contact information to
  • Avoid unfamiliar chat rooms and websites
  • If a child, then tell an adult who has the power to help you.
  • If an adult, consult the local police
With few laws governing harassment over the internet and through texting messages victims often feel helpless and scared. These feelings can lead to low self esteem, anger, frustration, depression and even suicidal thoughts.
What to Ask Yourself
  • How can I tell if someone I love is being cyberbullied?
  • What would I do if I found myself the victim of a cyberbully?
  • Have I ever written or done something online that another person might consider cyberbullying?
For more information please visit www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

Effects of Girls Who Bully Other Girls

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010

Effects of Girls Who Bully Other Girls

Bullying can take many different forms especially in a society that values technology so highly. Text bullying and online bullies are quite common. In particular, a girl bullying victims will often be much more subtle in the tactics used.

Queen Bees and Wanna Bees

Girls will usually form groups and use these to their advantage, encouraging a group to gang up on one victim. The Queen Bee is the leader and holds the keys of power to the clique. It is she who dictates what to wear, how to talk, walk and befriend.

The Wanna Bees, the other girls in the clique are in fear of disappointing the leader of the pack.  They are eager to share the power and gain favor in the eyes of the other mean girls in the group.

All girls want to belong to a social group and have friends. Queen Bees, the leader of a clique, can decide their fate in school. It is all about power.

Effects of Cyberbullying

Because students prefer to use phones for texting rather than talking, many texts and messages fly through cyber air about who is in and who is out.

One seventh grade girl told me recently, “None of our fights were face to face, we were too afraid the teacher would catch us. It is easier to fight online, because you feel more powerful. You can also be as mean as you want to on FaceBook. It is kind of fun to “dis” somebody.”

Cyberdramas of Girls

If there is a conflict between teenage couples, surprisingly, the girls will blame the girl and want to “punish her.”  In the Phoebe Prince suicide in Massachusetts, even though  the boy and girl were no longer dating, when he started dating Phoebe, she was bullied and attacked.

The groups will usually pick and choose their members and exclude others, sometimes completely at random.

While it is normal for both girls and boys to form social groups and strong bonds that naturally exclude others, it becomes bullying when power plays over individuals or other groups are involved.

Questions on Girls and Cyberbullying – We welcome comments

  • Why do you think girls turn against each other over the attention of a boy?
  • Do all cultures have cliques of girls?
  • Do you remember a Queen Bee from middle school?
  • Why do you think it is important for a young girl to fit into a group?
  • Is cyberbullying more dangerous than face-to-face bullying?